how i lupercalia like valentines day?

How is Lupercalia linked to Valentine’s Day?

Lupercalia was a bloody, violent, and sexually charged celebration that included animal sacrifice, random match making and coupling with hopes of warding off evil spirits and infertility.    

No one is really sure how far back this Roman festival really goes, but some have traced it back to the 6th century BC. It is said to have been a Shepard’s festival that was brought to Rome by Romulus and Remus.    

The legend has it that the Roman king, King Amulius, orders his twin nephews be killed for their mother’s broken vow of celibacy. They were to be throw in the Tiber River.    

Instead of just being tossed in- they were placed in a basket by a servant. The river-god is said to have carried the basket down river where it got caught in the branches of a wild fig tree. The twins were rescued by a she-wolf in a den at the base of Palatine Hill. (Side note: this is the area where the city of Rome was founded).    

Later, the twins were adopted by a Shepard and his wife and learned the shepherds’ trade. After killing their uncle- King Amulius, they found the den of the she-wolf that raise them and name is Lupercal.     Lupercal was named after the Roman fertility god Lupercus*.

Lupercalia is the celebration to honor both the God and the she-wolf that raise them.    

*Note: the god Lupercus may have been created after the fact to give the god type name for the celebration. We are still unsure who the Gods were that were worshipped during this festival. A secondary opinion that people have is that the God Pan was worshiped. I mentioned it was bloody..    

Ritual sacrifice was completed by the Roman’s to start off this festival. There was a sacrifice of a goat and a dog. The goat for fertility and the dog was most likely to honor the she-wolf. The Roman priests, called Luperci, would sacrifice the goat and the dog, smear the blood on the foreheads of 2 youths and as they wiped it away with a piece of milk-soaked wool, the youths were required to laugh.   After the Ritual Sacrifice, came the feast.  

When the feasting was over, the skin of the goat would be cut into strips or thongs (called februa). The men would them run around naked, or nearly naked, whipping women with the thongs. A lot of women welcomed the lashes as they believed it to be a fertility consecration. (Getting whipped was supposed to make your fertile, so the more whippings, the more fertile. Kinky..) This was a symbolic gesture of purification of the men and a symbolic purification of the land.  

During the Lupercalia festival, men chose women’s names from a jar* and would be coupled with them for the festival. Sometimes, they would stay together until the next year’s festival, or even get married.

*This was added to the history of the celebration in 1756, in Alban Butler’s Lives of the Fathers, Martyrs and Other Principal Saints (Vol. 2, s.v. February XIV, St. Valentine, Priest and Martyr).   Over time, the sexuality of the festival was lost until it was fully clothed men whipping women’s hands. How sexy is that?!!  

This is a great spot to touch on the Christian side of things..

  Saint Valentine was said to be a priest named Valentine who was imprisoned and beheaded by Roman Emperor Claudius II for assisting persecuted Christians and secretly marrying Christian couples in love. He even tired converting Claudius to Christianity while he was imprisoned. He was beheaded on February 14, which later became known as Valentine’s Day.  

So how does this tie in with Lupercalia?  

Well, after the Catholic church declared Valentine a saint, a pope in 494 CE, Pope Gelasius I eliminated the pagan festival of Lupercalia. He decided that February 14 would be the day to celebrate Saint Valentine*, who had become known as the patron of lovers. February 14 fell smack dab in the middle of the Lupercalia festival that typically happened somewhere between February 13-15.

*This is up for debate as the Valentine’s Day celebration can only be traced as far back as the Middle Ages, well after Pope Gelasius and Saint Valentine.   Some Christian choose not to celebrate Valentine’s Day because it is based off of the pagan festival of Lupercalia.  Snooty, huh?

Symbols used by Valentine’s Day:

  • The color red, which symbolizes the blood of the ritual sacrifice of the goat and the dog.
  • The color white, which symbolizes the milk with which they would soak the wool is before wiping the blood from their heads. It also symbolizes new life and protection.
  • Phallic symbols- these can include athames and wands.

Ritual Ideas to Celebrate Lupercalia

If you are interested in celebrating Lupercalia, there are some things that you can do that are inconspicuous and people may not realize that you’re not celebrating Valentine’s Day.  

  • You can make an offering of ground meat or milk on your altar. This offering can be to the God Pan or the God/Goddess of your choice.
  • Go to your local farm or farmers market and get some fresh milk. Have a feast that includes this milk.
  • Have a big celebratory dinner with some friends or other couples. Celebrate the love that you have for your friends and your partners.
  • Do something super romantic for your partner. I can’t really go into detail because everyone has different ideas of what is romantic.
  • Create a ritual to a Goddess of Love and Fertility.

  Let me know if this a holiday that you celebrate and what you think about the history. Was it a pagan holiday that was turned Christian or was it just coincidence that these holidays lined up?        


  1. History of Valentine’s Day. Society for the Confluence of Festivals in India.
  2. St. Valentine. Catholic Online.
  3. The Dark Origins of Valentine’s Day. National Public Radio.
  4. Lupercalia*/Lupercalia.html
  5. Alban Butler’s Lives of the Fathers, Martyrs and Other Principal Saints (Vol. 2, s.v. February XIV, St. Valentine, Priest and Martyr)
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